Reading the awesome comments (thank you!) on the “Believe in Yourself: Is That All It Takes? blog, I thought it might be useful to stay with that theme a bit longer.
Some of you have read that piece as if “belief” referred to your belief in becoming pregnant, and “doubt” referred to doubting that pregnancy was going to happen for you.
What brings you to Fertile Heart
The wish to give birth to a child is what brings most people to Fertile Heart. And for many that’s what compels them to call into the teleconferences and explore the ideas and tools of this work.
But ultimately this work is about making sure that we don’t miss the singular spectacular opportunity that comes with this particular unfulfilled desire. The work is about making sure we don’t miss a chance to be born into the human being/parent who is fully alive and fully fertile regardless of circumstances.
This practice and any life-enhancing practice is about making sure that the dragons we encounter on our human pilgrimage don’t swallow us whole; making sure that we choose to live this moment right now, aligned with our most thoughtful, most helpful, most soul-serving Self.
The guarantees we can and cannot expect
Yes, absolutely, for many, many women and men, the tools and ideas of I.B.O.W., have proved helpful in beating allegedly unbeatable odds. Some of those Moms are either currently part of our circle or have recently moved on to prepare for birth and baby. (If you’re out there, come say hi, when you can, we love to hear from you.)
If you’d ask what’s true for me, I’d say Yes, I do know that diving into the practice AS IF YOU ABSOLUTELY BELIEVED that it can make a difference for you, will absolutely make a difference for you. That’s what I mean when I say, you’ll have to fake it till you make it.
But the human gig and certainly this particular journey doesn’t come with guarantees of results, no matter how much we believe such results are possible Anyone who tells you they have a magic wand, and a secret formula to make it happen, is feeding into the Orphan of Denial.
Though this work, if you’re engaging with it like you mean it, can come with a guarantee. It’s not a guarantee of a particular outcome, no one can give you that. It’s a guarantee of your stronger, wiser, more grown up and more joyful Self showing up.
The Self that keeps walking
The self that keeps walking toward the object of her desire. The self that says: This is the path I choose, this is what’s right for me, and I take responsibility for that choice as I take responsibility for my life. I have done and continue to do what it takes to build the inner resources I need to reach my destination.
To believe in the goodness of being gratefully, lovingly alive; to believe that this challenge has come into our lives to heal something that could not be healed any other way; to believe that we are on this birthing journey not for a good reason but for a great one.
That’s my invitation and that’s the invitation of the Fertile Heart Ovum Practice. To believe all that, or wrestle with the doubter in you until you can live your way into believing.
Can’t wait to engage with some of these questions tomorrow night:
What do we doubt? What do we wrestle with and how do we live and love life and each other in the world of no guarantees?