Ralph Waldo Emerson knew what he was talking about when he said: “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no individual can sincerely try to help another without helping himself”
Reaching out to Mandy in my last blog post has already brought a number of precious gifts.
Reading the many beautiful comments for our Courage-to-Receive-Game, has created opportunities for me as a humble yet ambitious teacher of the Fertile Heart Ovum Practice, to better understand how to support you; how to offer more concrete guidance for unwrapping the gems that showed up, even in the short time of playing this game.
I see a thrilling learning opportunity here for all of us, regardless of whether or not we’re “in” the game. Of course there are no should’s linked with it.
Just to be clear: PLAYING THIS PARTICULAR GAME IS IN NO WAY A REQUIREMENT FOR THE TELECLASSES OR ANYTHING ELSE RELATED TO THIS COMMUNITY.
And as some of you astutely observed, the Orphan can only see the world, everything and everyone in it, as a chance for slurping up another drop of self-blame, or to place herself in exile.
What a relief to be able to see this and choose to walk down the Ultimate Mom Boulevard rather than wander off into the dead end street of you know who. (Sacred Choices in the first Fertile Heart Imagery CD is a great remedy for this O)
This lovely game of ours is just that, a game. An experiment and a game. Hopefully one of many games we’ll get to play together. Each of them will probably appeal to some and not to others.
Making a commitment is always first a commitment to ourselves, not to anyone else. We make it publicly because it raises the stakes a bit, and makes the life of a learning community a little more interesting.
We also make it publicly because the road of the Visionary is a lonely, not very well traveled road. It becomes a lot less lonely, and the labor pains much more bearable, with one or two midwives in attendance.
Making a commitment to something out of a desire to learn, a desire to discover, a desire to experience a deeper connection to others interested in a particular experiment, is the path of the Visionary. (Committing to action out of a sense of obligation or to pleaes authority is usually an Orphan Annie act.)
A joyous commitment is also a background that brings into relief that which we otherwise wouldn’t be able to see. A commitment is an adult’s strong arm for the Orphans to wrestle with; some ground rules laid down by a loving Ultimate Mama, that never ever says: Look at you, failed again!
All she does is stand by and watch. Compassionately. She knows we always do our best. She knows that we have generations’s worth of challenges to overcome. She knows how special and one-of-a-kind-creatures we all are. She is rooting for us. She offers opportunities carefully tailored for our astonishing talents. Especially the ones hidden to ourselves.
So: Thank you to those of you who play, and thank you to those of you who witness. Thank you, thank you to all!!
A couple of suggestions to anyone who feels inspired to jump in, or to continue this adventure: See if you can, just for the purpose of this game. (otherwise feel free to indulge) resist the impulse to judge yourself as good or bad or judge the fact that you did your practice as good, and the fact that you didn’t, as bad.
See if you can simply observe the truth. If it’s not too late in the evening and you want to share a bit of insight you discover about the practice to inspire the rest of us, that’s great.
And here is something to add a bit more color to our play. If you’d like, choose a number on the scale of 1-10 as to the fullness of heart and space you create for the Imagery and Body Truth.
Again, as tough as it is to not judge, give it a try.
There are days when I find myself in bed at night, and my body tells me, I didn’t do a full enough Body Truth. And there are days when I choose to go to sleep anyway. On other days, my body clearly wants me to get out of bed and do it. So I stumble into the living room, and release whatever issues of the day still linger in my tissues. Not because I I feel some sort of obligation, but because my Holy Human Loaf craves a bit more sweetness.
The courage to lovingly witness the truth without analyzing and explanations is one way to practice compassionate parenting. Something most of us with human parents didn’t get enough of. It’s an expression of our courage to give. To ourselves first. And it’s the same as the courage to receive. From ourselves.
That’s the secret of the kiss. In a passionate full bodied kiss, as in any passionate full bodied act, we give and receive at the very same time.