What better way to start the year than knowing how much we are needed.
The Journal of the American Medical Association is doing a great job letting us, awesome fertileheared Visionary mamas, know just that. Validating in a big way that our children are counting on us. All of us.
Here’s the story –
A recent study, published n the Journal of the American Medical Association involving 157, 000 women in the UK who underwent more than 257,000 cycles of I.V.F. has come to an interesting conclusion.
Nearly two-thirds of women undergoing I.V.F., suggests the research, will have a child by the sixth attempt after various Failed IVF’s. With In Vitro Fertilization, Persistence Pays Off, is the title of the New York Times piece analyzing the research.
We also learn that this is especially true for women under 40.
In other words, if you’re under 40, be sure to stick around for at least six I.V.F. cycles.
However, if you’re over 40, they want to make sure you know you have only 4% chance of conceiving through IVF, so best to think about egg donation.
Is this the message that serves the patient’s best interests?
Here is a noteworthy quote from the NYT piece (Barbara Collura is a the executive director of Resolve the National Infertility Association, an organization with a list of sponsors like EMD Serono, Inc. donating between $150, 000 to $249.999).
“Barbara Collura, the chief executive of Resolve, said the study’s deeper message to women is ‘be prepared for three or four or five failures to get what you want.’ ”
Is that a message. a patient advocacy group wants us to ingest into our baby-wishing bodies?
Maybe the deepest message of this study is that we, brilliant, professional women, need to apply the same critical thinking skills that earned us our higher degrees, to our baby journey.
Maybe the deepest message of this study is to remind ourselves once again how essential it is for us to claim our power as the key change-makers of our bodies and lives. Embrace that message learning from stories of women who have gone through more than six failed IVF’s and conceived naturally.
Or maybe the deepest message is to learn from women who kept going through one failed I.V.F. after another until they learned to become their own fiercest allies and then went through a successful IVF cycle on their own terms.
The deepest questions to ask ourselves:
The deepest message of this study is that we, thoughtful, intelligent adults need to ask ourselves: Who profits by suggesting we enter treatment “expecting” to go through six IVF cycles?
Who pays the salary of people who tell us we “should be prepared for three to five failures” to get what we want?
How many of the babies born through 257.000 cycles could have been born at a lesser risk to their moms’ and their own health? Not to mention lesser environmental and healthcare cost?
How many of the women in this study were encouraged by their doctors to attempt a deep emotional and physical overhaul in order to minimize the number of IVF cycles they’d need to go through?
For me, those would be some of the deepest messages of this questionable study.
How about you? What’s the deepest message of this latest study for you?
Acting on the message
If you haven’t seen Spotlight, and Big Short, go see them soon. Great stories to awaken the activist in any caring sentient human.
And speaking of caring sentient humans, thank you VERY MUCH! to those of you who offered to be part of our Helper’s Circle. I will be emailing you with a few specific suggestions and we will have a half hour sharing circle once a month. Because only gutsy mamas who care, can change the status quo. And that’s who we are! Happy New Year!