The dark side of the light chase
This may not be the most popular kind of love to talk about around Valentine’s Day or any other day. But maybe it’s not such a bad idea to start popularizing it.
We are a culture of positive thinkers, divine-love-and-light-pursuing self-improvement junkies. And there is an aspect of that pursuit, that’s killing us.
In the summer of 2012, a dear friend of mine and beloved member of our community here in Woodstock, took his own life. Since his death I’ve become painfully aware about the widespread disease that drives so many women, men, and young adults toward desperate acts.
A few days after my friend’s death came the horrific news of the Colorado shooting.
“Lighten up. Get over it. Look at the bright side!” Isn’t that what we tell ourselves and each other?
What’s crowding behind the door?
I am all for looking at the bright side. But if we close the door to the dark side, all that begins to crowd behind that door might one day blow it into smithereens.
Suicides of loved ones in our families and communities, and events such as the Colorado tragedy seep through the layer of skin into our bodies and hearts, begging us to sit up and pay attention. How then do we respond?
What do we do?
What do we do when a member of our consciousness-claiming species sends a shower of bullets into a crowded movie theater? Or into a kindergarten classroom?
Do we turn the channel? Go to the nearest synegogue or church and say a prayer? Make a contributuion to our favorite peace charity?
What do these events ask of us?
How do I go on teaching workshops about bringing more babies into the world? How do I remain standing against the incoming waves of powerlessness?
We do what we can
I do what I can.
I reach out to you, even if often, part of me doesn’t believe it will make any difference. I do it anyway. I share a poem I’ve written some time ago, about what for me, is the toughest, yet most essential first step toward stopping the hand poised to harm. I’d love you to take a look, offer your thoughts. You can click here to watch the video. There is a place for comments underneath the video if you’re
moved to do so.
We now also have a FertileHertedHuman FB page so come and visit) which I am re-dedicating to a continued dialogue about the many ways we can apply the Fertile Heart Ovum practice to engaging with our inner and outer conflicts.
Let’s explore together how we can celebrate life without disowning the parts of ourselves that appear frightening. Feeling powerless is okay, if we can just remember that feelings are not reality.
What about you? How do you respond to disturbing events in your community and in the world? Have you ever had a close relationship with someone who took her their own life?
Sending love to each of you,