Our Fertile Heart Studio is, for many people, the last stop on the baby train. Often it’s their last ditch effort at getting pregnant, after they have depleted their bank accounts and their ovarian reserve. So it’s fitting that my book, Inconceivable made into the last of the weekly entries of Amy Klein’s Fertility Diary.(Thank you Amy!) as she takes off for yet another round of IVF in Israel.
I did get a huge dose of healing from Amy’s entries. Mostly they validated the value of the work I do, enlivened the rabble-rouser in me, and energized me to ask the awesome moms in our community to support me more actively in our outreach efforts. Otherwise my work will continue to be trivialized as a feel- good-stress- reduction technique or a “detox regimen” of green juice and tempeh.
Green juice and tempeh are not a bad beginning. It’s just not what the I.B.O.W. fertility practice is about.
Nor is my work about choosing spontaneous pregnancy over IVF or egg donation or surrogacy or any other form of assisted reproduction.
What we do here in Fertile Heart land is a birthing practice. We give birth to babies but before that,we give birth to a stronger, more fertile, more engaged, more co-creative version of ourselves. We use this challenge as an opportunity to awaken to our role as grown up women and men who joined the human race to make a contribution.
So take good care, Amy Klein!
I confess that for now, it seems to me as though you are on your way to be another celebrity spokesperson for the the well oiled machine of the infertility industrial complex. Your favorite novel validates the choices you have made so far. “I would go through it all again, every needle, every loss, every raging hormone, every heartbreaking second, to be here right now, with my beautiful daughter sleeping beside me.”(What Alice Forgot” by Liane Moriarty.)
What would the heroine of your favorite novel say to the women who had gone through “needles and raging hormones and years of hearbreatk” and walked home to en empty nursery and a body ravaged by the process?
Whatever path you take, I also trust that you will keep walking till your reach your destination. My hope is that you will reach it without any further unnecessary suffering. You and I have been born into a wondrous wisdom tradition. One of the first lines in the great self-help book of teachings we chant from every Saturday morning says,
God said let there be light and there was light.
To me that line speaks of the light of consciousness— the light that calls to each of us to feel, think, and act for ourselves, and, as best we can, choose the most life-affirming next step toward the object of our desire.