Unconsciousness is contagious
Sheepwalking is a term coined by the brilliant author/teacher Seth Godin (my new heartthrob).
Sheepwalkers, as the term suggests, are people with no ability to do their own thinking, thus they follow the instructions of an Authority. The job of the Authority is to instill enough fear in the sheepwalking masses to make sure they don’t ever dare to wake up from their somnambulistic fog.
Sheepwalking is highly contagious, which is why recognizing the symptoms and attempting to wake each other up is essential to our survival as a species of sentient beings.
Seek and you shall find experts to validate your reality
Here are some quotes from the most recent article by Fertility Diaries columnist Amy Klein. The piece, titled: Fertility Fog is published in Aeon.
“There is a declining rate of fertility strongly tied to age – but the exact numbers have recently come up for debate.”
After this startling piece of information, Klein cites the newly debated statistics about age related infertility. The statistics quoted by one of the experts she found to validate her reality, are panic- inducing or encouraging, depending on which side of 40 you find yourself.
Because, as the studies quoted by the expert suggest, it’s at 40 when the “huge” drop off happens.
And this invaluable piece of information, is then another opportunity for this journalist’s self-flagellation and an invitation to join her in singing the “if only I had known” tune.
“Had I known that 40 was the real age when fertility generally takes a dive – and not that I’d long passed it five or 10 years’ prior – I might have rushed into baby-making. I might have saved myself from a hellacious IVF journey that still hasn’t ended.”
Amy Klein has been sheepwalking through the revolving doors of fertility clinics following the instructions of medical deities, rabbis, and statisticians.
She is free to do so. She is also free to write about it.
Choosing the possible
The choice you and I must make, is whether to join Amy Klein’s sheepwalking line and feed the dragon of regret, self-blame and fear. whether to feed the collective hysteria of the last good egg, or…wake up.
We can sheepwalk into the reality of seeing ourselves through the reductive lens of graphs and statistics: the reality of the “hellacious” experience of not getting what we want when we want it.
Or we can see our fertility challenge as an invitation to wake up to the reality of the possible; the reality of seeing ourselves as agents of change; the reality of the human journey as a mystery to be lived with humility and gratitude. We can then keep co-creating a reality of cleaner air and water and food; a reality in which countless women around the world give birth to healthy babies long after their 40th birthday.
In my 65th year I’m too fertile and busy with new creations, to gather all the over-forty Fertile Heart success stories. So for now, here are just a few, to read on days when you find yourself lost in the fertility fog of the Amy Klein Neighborhood.