Hear this dear Fertile Heart Sisterhood: Nivedita, a 28 year old young woman in Andheri India, childless after four years of marriage is “stressed” after two failed IVF cycles.
Then a benevolent Delhi based clinic’s psychologist counsels the young woman to be less “stressed” about her treatment and her infertility. She receives “stress reduction counseling,” her anxiety about fertility treatment subsides, she celebrates a successful IVF cycle and is now four months pregnant. A great success story! Or is it?
I’d say unless this young woman has no fallopian tubes and it doesn’t appear that this is her problem, someone should counsel Nivedita to run as fast as she can from IVF clinics and explore what it might be that’s stopping her to conceive at 28. And if that doesn’t work and she chooses to do IVF, I’ll send a free CD to help her “de-stress.”
I”m breathless with excitement about the arrival of Princess R’s IVF-conceived little miracle baby-boy, and cheering Morgan all the way as she prepares for her donor cycle, and grateful for the long list of Fertile Heart- In-Vitro-babies. I know the inner work their moms have done and I know they didn’t walk away from treatment worshipping technology.
But can we really as a species afford co-creating a culture in which younger and younger women are resorting to technology to help them get pregnant?
We really do need to shed a little light on these lame “stress reduction for successful IVF” stories.
A happy open-eyed-fertile-Sunday to all!