Amidst expectations of the holidays, the very air around us is thick with grief. The devastation of the Newtown tragedy is once again a bewildering mirror of the evil that could be delivered by human hand.
And in spite of it all, I’m inviting you to join me in keeping our hearts open, allowing the fountain of tears to flow, and then re-dedicating ourselves to joining the wave that turns the tide toward hope; toward choosing the most life-enhancing next step toward the object of our desires. For each of us, the desire for a far more child-friendly world has got to be at the top of our wish list.
In the spirit of resilience, the spirit of turning toward hope during these days of awe, I want to share a gift I got from my sister for Chanukah this year.
My sister Susan, two years older than I am,reminded me of a tradition from our childhood that I no longer remembered.
Since we didn’t have a menorah, the special nine-branch candelabra for holding the Chanukah candles, my mother took walnut shells, drizzled melted wax on the bottom of the shells and then atttached the tiny candles to the empty shells. She then placed the walnut shells with the candles in a glass bowl filled with water, lit the candles, turned off the lights and we watched our floating menorah while my mother told us the Chanukah story.
Rather than going out into the world in these next couple of weeks bemoaning our fertility challenges and wondering how we’ll “cope,” perhaps we could welcome the days, heartache and all, and think of one tradition from our childhood, or a tradition we’ve invented as adults that we can look forward to sharing with our children when they finally beam down to join us.
Is there a story, a gift from your family’s tradtion you could share with the rest of us?
I’m so, so grateful to each of you for opening your hearts in our teleconference and on the message boards and for being part of our Visionary Mamas, fertility-game-changer-community!
May we all, in the upcoming year, re-dedicate ourselves to keep turning and turning and turning toward the Light!