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November 9, International Day of Compassion

By on November 9, 2017

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November 9 is when I invite our community and anyone else who feels compelled to join us, to celebrate International Day of Compassion.

It’s a holiday I conceived in 2010;  another small personal step toward peace, which evolved through my 9/11 Bowing Project.

When this idea first occurred to me, I didn’t realize that November 9 was also the anniversary of Kristallnacht, the Night of the Broken Glass, a brutal night of terror, and the beginning of the end for so many victims of the Final Solution, the attempt of the Third Reich’s henchmen to rid Germany of the unwanted elements of Jews, Gypsies, Communists, and gays.

It was also the beginning of the end for my two grandmothers, my aunt, my brother, and more cousins than I could count. None of whom I ever got to meet.

I wonder if anyone would argue with the notion that we are in dire need of compassion; an urgent need to initiate a far more meaningful dialogue about the roots of violence;

That we must especially speak up against scapegoating anyone we perceive as the Other. 

The same way we practice compassion as we turn our fertility challenges into a source healing, we must also turn the continuous unleashing of hateful actions into a source of strength.

Because light is stronger than darkness and greatest is the light that comes from darkness.

To anyone who wishes to join me in honoring this day as a day of healing:

 Happy International Day of Compassion!

Anything or anyone that needs a more compassionate response from you?

5 Responses to “November 9, International Day of Compassion”

  1. Chopin says:

    Dear ones,
    our last call was a turning point for me, all of a sudden I was able to see myself with compassion. See myself with tenderness. But it was not so sudden, in fact, it was built on trusting myself over and over again to be fully alive. Don’t put a lid on myself, so to speak. These last couple of weeks I felt very happy and not ashamed. My husband invited me to Paris for the weekend and we walked in all the places we walked when we first met. It was a big step for me to take a week off and not have any other reason to do it, just enjoy. It has been a new feeling to invite joy in my life without any effort on my part. Receiving rather than deserving or working towards some outcome. Mothering myself this week included going to do an exercise I discovered and like called feldenkreis method where you move the way you used to as a baby, aligning posture etc. As a result my voice got lower, as though am more in tune. Going for a play to theatre, what else? Seeing my niece, my brother and sister in law who is about to give birth and my parents. Reading a poem by my favorite poet Jan Skacel. Speaking my mother tongue in public in the USA without shame. Things that were not possible in the past are now a reality. It feels like magic. Thank you for your listening on the calls everyone, makes me feel heard! Here is to joy,
    and embracing life

  2. AnchorMama says:

    As always, another insightful blog. Thank you Julia. There is no doubt that I desire more compassion toward myself. I find it far easier to be compassionate towards family, friends, my students, their families and even total strangers than being compassionate with myself. I work on it every day. My grandfather always used to tell me, “When someone upsets or hurts you, kill ’em with kindness.” It has been a valuable reminder for me to remember this, especially when someone has hurt me. I also desire to be more compassionate with my husband because this is OUR journey not just mine. I also desire to be more compassionate with my mother. She has suffered many traumas and just kept on going. Maybe together we can be more compassionate and heal as we journey forward together. There is always room for more kindness and compassion in the world, even by just taking small steps/actions. Baby steps toward healing, love and a better world.

  3. WithGrattitude says:

    Another thought provoking invitation! My husband needs more compassion from me. So much of the fertility journey is focused inward – on myself, on my body, what I put into it, what I need, when I need it. It’s exhausting! My husband, as kind, loving and supportive as he is, needs some more reciprocity from me. This is my body, but this is our journey, our project, our work in trying to achieve our end goal – our baby. I need to take what I’m learning about the UM in the OVUM practice and apply that outward towards my partner in a bigger way. Thank you for bringing me this clarity Julia. In addition, our world is in fact in dire need of compassion. The news breaks my heart on some level every single day. It seems like such an easy way to live – treat others with kindness, embrace differences among humans – after all that’s what makes us all special. However, this is such a difficult concept for this world to embrace. I can keep doing my small part to make the world around me a better place.

  4. Gravid Sans Doute says:

    Dear Fertile Mamas,

    There are always people and things that need a more compassionate response from me. Fruitbat, I appreciate your insight related to trauma. We are all on a journey with none of us perfect, some way more challenged than others. I often need to be more compassionate with myself, for instance for making mistakes at work. I often need to be compassionate with my husband and coo-workers for not responding to me in a sensitive way. Sometimes I am saying to myself in my head “Why are they doing that?” -forgetting momentarily that we just aren’t perfect. One thing that has helped soothe the angry voices inside my head quicker than most things I’ve tried is to , after someone has hurt me in some way, try to think of one good thing about them, even if it is just “I like your shoes”. I don’t necessarily say that to the other person, but the process of looking for that one good thing, hard as it might be, is very helpful. I try this even when I think someone isn’t being a courteous driver like “I like your car” or “your car is very clean.

    My pleasurable activity has been looking on Youtube for music people like to dance to and dancing to it.

    Blessings to all.

  5. Fruitbat says:

    For me this question brings up the perhaps very obvious topic of trauma. Its one that my fertility journey has brought me to time and again to explore. It seems that despite thinking I have got to the root of things there is still more and more again. Slowly the trauma-scape has unwound and revealed new layers and then more. And with this there are gifts a plenty.

    I now can no longer put down the trauma lens and I am grateful to be wearing it all the time now. I now ask, just internally mostly, what happened to “them” for them to behave like this, say that, do that…? What’s their story? Because there is always a story right? Always. These cycles of violence don’t come from nowhere. And at times now I speak out. Its not that I want to excuse actions that are damaging and worse, its that I want to see the bigger picture, look for root causes and opportunities to heal and most of all I want to live in a society where we do this automatically at a societal and community level.

    Recently in the UK there has been a daily radio blog on a major news programme (BBC Radio 4 World at One) called The Adoption. Its a brilliant piece of radio and everyone has been incredibly brave to allow the following of an adoption process; it’s reported from the perspective of all involved. It’s been very sensitively produced. And still it is all too easy to feel angry with the birth parents, for the neglect of their children and worse that led to them being taken from them… And now with my trauma lens I can’t help but wonder what their stories are. What do their trauma-scapes look like? What took them to that place with their kids? And most of all I am very sad and angry that the best we have to offer as a wider community for them was parenting classes and the social work support. Not that these are not a good thing, I just think we could do better, we could turn up the compassion and curiosity and help more, deeper and longer and hopefully keep more families together. If we apply this wider perhaps we can better bring and keep communities together too.



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