I kept wanting to feel good all the time. I also thought that in order to be who I wanted to be I had to feel loving and generous at each moment, especially toward the people I was in direct relationship with.
That, of course, the demand to feel this or that way toward anyone at all, at any given time, comes from the Orphan’s aspiration to sainthood.
Love is a verb.
I can have a multitude of feelings toward you, but it’s what I do, how I treat you, that matters. You can profess your devotion a thousand times, but if you don’t hear a word I say, your words are like the elaborately wrapped gifts in window displays, which may look flashy, but are just empty boxes with nothing inside.
Feelings can be fickle. It’s what love compels us to do, that matters.
For a relationship to blossom into its full beauty, a certain level of loving engagement is non-negotiable. It calls for a particular behavior. It calls for action.
Children need gentle guidance to grow into loving adults. Humans in grown up bodies may also need guidance and diligent gentle self-witnessing to grow into adulthood.
Our main task as emerging fully human beings is to learn to love one another.
It’s one of the main subjects in our Fertile Heart Schoolhouse. It’s what every imagery and every Body Truth and every single exchange in our workshops and teleconferences is about.
It’s also the most valuable preparation for parenting.